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Documentary Explores Unique Approach to Infidelity in China

A provocative documentary examining infidelity in China will debut in New Zealand next week as part of the International Film Festival. Titled Mistress Dispeller, the film follows the complex dynamics of a love triangle involving Mr. and Mrs. Li, a couple from Luoyang, Henan Province, and the husband’s mistress, Feifei. Directed by Elizabeth Lo, the documentary delves into the phenomenon of hiring “mistress dispellers,” a service that has gained traction in China over the past decade.
Lo explained in an interview with RNZ’s Nine To Noon that the emergence of this service is a response to couples in crisis who wish to address infidelity without resorting to separation. Traditionally, having a mistress was seen as a status symbol for men, often regarded as a measure of success. However, many individuals prefer to navigate the complexities of their relationships without leaving their marriages.
“This service fills a gap for people who want to combat infidelity but are not ready to end their marriages,” Lo stated. According to her, the approach allows wives to take action by hiring someone skilled in resolving such conflicts in a manner that avoids confrontation. She described it as a tool that, when utilized effectively, helps the involved parties maintain their dignity and avoid “losing face.”
Lo’s team discovered Wang, a prominent mistress dispeller, through social media. Wang’s ability to gain the trust of husbands, wives, and mistresses made her a compelling figure for the film. “She provided us access to those willing to appear on camera because of the rapport she built through her techniques,” Lo noted.
Having faced infidelity in her own family, Wang immersed herself in psychology to understand emotional complexities. “She has carved out a niche akin to family therapy, where her role involves integrating herself into a family grappling with infidelity,” Lo explained. Under the guise of a long-lost college friend or an old acquaintance, Wang forms relationships over time, influencing the individuals involved to end affairs voluntarily.
Unlike some mistress dispellers who may employ intimidation or deceit, Wang adopts a therapeutic approach. “She positions herself as a couple’s therapist, helping each person in the love triangle see her as a guiding light in their lives,” Lo stated. This method is particularly relevant in China, where seeking therapy is often stigmatized. “Wang’s work allows her to join families under a false identity, as traditional family therapy would not be accepted,” she added.
To ensure ethical standards, the husband and mistress were not informed of the film’s specifics but were approached to participate in a broader narrative about modern love and dating in China. Over a filming period of three to four months, both parties were given the opportunity to re-consent or withdraw after gaining insight into Wang’s role.
“Thankfully, this trio was so gracious and trusting that they agreed to remain featured,” said Lo. Wang’s services are financially lucrative, with fees typically reaching around US$20,000 (NZ$33,000) for a case resolution.
Lo emphasized that despite ongoing debates about the ethics of such services, Wang genuinely believes she is providing help during moments of crisis that individuals often endure in isolation due to societal shame. “By participating in this documentary, she aims to show that sharing private struggles can assist others navigating similar emotional turmoil,” Lo concluded.
Mistress Dispeller will screen in Auckland, Wellington, and Hamilton starting next week, inviting audiences to explore the intricacies of love, loyalty, and betrayal within a modern Chinese context.
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Documentary Explores Unique Mistress Dispelling Service in China

A new documentary titled Mistress Dispeller will premiere in New Zealand next week as part of the International Film Festival. The film, directed by Elizabeth Lo, explores the life of a unique professional in China who helps couples navigate the complexities of infidelity.
The documentary centers around the story of Mr. and Mrs. Li, a couple from Luoyang, in Henan Province, and the husband’s mistress, Feifei. Lo explained during an interview with RNZ’s Nine To Noon that the phenomenon of hiring mistress dispellers has emerged over the past decade as a response to the increasing number of marital crises in China.
Traditionally, having a mistress was seen as a symbol of success for men. Yet, many couples do not wish to end their marriages despite infidelity. Lo described the service as a means for these individuals to address their issues without resorting to confrontation. “It’s almost like a tool that oftentimes wives can use if they have resources to hire someone who can fight for them,” she said. This approach aims to resolve conflicts in a nonviolent manner, allowing the mistress to exit without resistance.
Lo’s team discovered Wang, a mistress dispeller, through extensive social media research. Wang’s ability to foster trust among those involved in love triangles made her an ideal subject for the film. “She was able incredibly to get us access to husbands and wives and mistresses who were willing to be on camera because she had so much trust built with them,” Lo noted. Wang’s personal experiences with infidelity within her family led her to delve into psychology, allowing her to better understand human emotions.
Wang’s methodology resembles that of family therapy. She infiltrates relationships under a false identity, often posing as an old friend. By establishing a connection over several months, she influences the parties involved to end affairs voluntarily. Unlike some of her peers who may resort to intimidation, Wang presents herself as a therapist, helping each individual find clarity in their situation.
“She really positions herself as this sort of couple’s therapist and therapist even to the mistress,” Lo explained. Wang’s work is particularly significant in a society where therapy carries a stigma; she would not have been able to join a family as a therapist without disguising her role.
To maintain ethical standards, the husband and mistress were not informed of the film’s specific content when approached to participate. They were invited to take part in a broader project about modern relationships in China. Over the three to four months of filming, the couple was shown the documentary and given the opportunity to withdraw or re-consent based on their understanding of Wang’s role. Fortunately, the trio agreed to remain featured due to their trust in Wang.
Wang’s services are not inexpensive, costing around US$20,000 to resolve a case. Despite the potential ethical debates surrounding her work, Lo emphasized that Wang genuinely believes she aids individuals during their crises, which often come with feelings of shame. “She positions herself and even in participating in this documentary… that sharing your private struggles publicly will help other people who find themselves in this kind of emotional turmoil,” Lo stated.
The documentary Mistress Dispeller will be screened in Auckland, Wellington, and Hamilton starting next week, offering audiences a rare glimpse into an unconventional aspect of modern love and relationships in China.
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Test Your Skills: Solve the Challenging Hard Word Today

Participants are invited to engage in a mental challenge with today’s edition of The Hard Word, a quiz designed to test vocabulary and quick thinking. The objective is simple: solve the puzzle within one minute using one word and one clue. This format encourages not only individual skill but also a sense of friendly competition among players.
Engagement Through Challenges
The Hard Word quiz has gained popularity as a fun and interactive way for individuals to enhance their language skills. Each day presents a new challenge, pushing players to think critically and act quickly. The format requires participants to decipher a clue and arrive at the correct word, making it both a test of knowledge and speed.
Today’s clue is set to challenge minds and ignite enthusiasm among players. The nature of the quiz fosters an environment where learning meets entertainment, creating a unique platform for language enthusiasts to connect.
Why Participate?
Engaging with quizzes like The Hard Word can sharpen cognitive skills while providing a delightful break from daily routines. Participants can enjoy the thrill of racing against the clock, all while expanding their vocabulary. This format particularly appeals to those who appreciate intellectual challenges and enjoy competing with friends or family.
As the clock ticks down, the urgency heightens, making each second count. Whether you are a seasoned player or new to the challenge, The Hard Word offers an opportunity to learn while having fun. Join in today, and see if you can solve the puzzle before time runs out.
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England Triumphs in Thrilling Euros Final Against Spain

The England Lionesses successfully defended their UEFA Women’s Euro title, winning against Spain in a dramatic penalty shootout on July 31, 2024, in Basel, Switzerland. The match concluded 1-1 after extra time, with England emerging victorious after a tense shootout, securing their second consecutive Euros championship.
Spain took an early lead in the 25th minute when Mariona Caldentey capitalized on a defensive lapse, heading a cross from Ona Batlle past England goalkeeper Hannah Hampton. England struggled initially, particularly with Lauren James sidelined due to an ankle injury. However, coach Sarina Wiegman‘s decision to substitute in Kelly before half-time proved pivotal.
Kelly’s introduction revitalized the team, and she provided a crucial assist for Alessia Russo, who equalized in the 57th minute with a precise header. Despite Spain controlling possession, they could not find a second goal, leading to extra time where both teams remained locked at 1-1.
The penalty shootout began dramatically, with Spain’s goalkeeper Cata Coll saving an attempt from Beth Mead. However, England’s Hampton responded with impressive saves against Caldentey and Aitana Bonmati, giving England a crucial advantage. Coll managed to stop a shot from Leah Williamson, but Spain’s Salma Paralluelo missed her penalty, hitting it wide.
This set the stage for Kelly, who had previously scored the decisive goal in the 2022 final against Germany. With a signature run-up, she confidently struck the ball into the net, celebrating with her teammates in front of the jubilant England fans.
“I’m so proud of this team, so grateful to wear this badge, and I’m so proud to be English,” Kelly remarked after the match. “I was cool, I was composed, and I knew I was going to hit the back of the net.”
This final marked the first time since the inaugural tournament in 1984 that the championship was decided by penalties. An ecstatic Hampton reflected on the team’s resilience: “Unbelievable, incredible. We showed throughout this tournament that we can come back when we go a goal down. We just keep going, and we did that today.”
With this victory, the England Lionesses continue to solidify their position as one of the leading teams in women’s football, showcasing not only skill but also determination and grit throughout the tournament.
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Christchurch Couple Successfully Relocates Historic Villa After Six Years

A couple from Christchurch, New Zealand, has successfully relocated a historic two-storey villa, a project that took six years to plan and execute. This monumental task involved careful consideration of architectural heritage and structural integrity, showcasing the couple’s commitment to preserving local history.
The villa, renowned for its intricate design and historical significance, was moved from its original location to a new plot within the city. This ambitious project highlights not only the couple’s dedication to their home but also the growing trend of relocating rather than renovating older houses.
Planning and Execution of the Move
The planning process for the villa’s move began in earnest in 2017. The couple faced numerous challenges, including obtaining necessary permits and ensuring the building complied with local regulations. They collaborated with architects and engineers to assess the villa’s condition and develop a strategy for the relocation.
A key concern throughout the process was maintaining the villa’s structural integrity during the move. According to local architect Emily Johnson, the couple took every precaution to preserve the building’s original features. “It was essential to keep the character of the villa intact while ensuring it could be safely transported,” Johnson stated.
In early 2023, after years of preparation, the couple finally moved the villa to its new location. The operation required specialized equipment, including heavy machinery and a team of experienced movers. The relocation took several hours, with community members gathering to witness the historic event.
A Community Impact
The successful relocation has generated significant interest within the local community. Many residents expressed admiration for the couple’s dedication and commitment to preserving Christchurch’s architectural heritage. The project has sparked discussions about the importance of maintaining the city’s historical buildings in the face of modern development.
The couple plans to renovate the villa further, creating a home that blends the old with the new. They have expressed enthusiasm about potentially opening their home to the public for tours, allowing others to appreciate the villa’s historical significance.
This project serves as an inspiring example of how individuals can take initiative to preserve local history while adapting to changing personal circumstances. The couple’s journey reflects a broader trend of valuing and protecting historical architecture in urban settings.
As Christchurch continues to evolve, projects like this highlight the balance between development and heritage preservation, reminding residents of the stories that each building holds.
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